Prayer for First Day of Divine Mercy Novena
Most Merciful Jesus, whose very nature it is to have compassion on us and to forgive us, do not look upon our sins but upon our trust which we place in Your infinite goodness. Receive us all into the abode of Your Most Compassionate Heart, and never let us escape from It. We beg this of You by Your love which unites You to the Father and the Holy Spirit.
Eternal Father, turn Your merciful gaze upon all mankind and especially upon poor sinners, all enfolded in the Most Compassionate Heart of Jesus. For the sake of His sorrowful Passion show us Your mercy, that we may praise the omnipotence of Your mercy for ever and ever. Amen.
Friday, April 10, 2020
Thursday, April 9, 2020
Communion by Desire
Minnesota, and many of the states, have extended ‘stay at home’ orders. Gathering with various others of all sizes, especially those over 10, are discouraged.
This puts a spin on life as normal for me as a priest, of course. We are not allowed to have public Masses, and especially as we are about to start the Sacred Triduum and Easter, this is hard. Harder still is the fasting from the Eucharist that the Faithful will need to extend.
I hear of the frustration. I hear, too, of the grasping at straws, the desire for parking lot Masses (which present a number of challenges to the sanctity of the Mass) or the desire for multiplication of Masses beyond the priests’ ability to meet and yet keep everyone safe and compliant. I hear of the request that we distribute the Eucharist in a hygienic way through using disposable items that could still pass on this virus or collect fragments of the Blessed Sacrament (and would need respectful treatment).
We have to remember that this novel corona virus is unique. While many who are exposed to it may have little to mild symptoms, some will have severe symptoms. While underlying health concerns are an aggravating matter, this is not always the case. It seems that this virus is a little fickle. On top of that, as we have heard, someone might be contagious before, if ever, being symptomatic. This means that they might pass on this virus without ever getting sick or even knowing they are contagious. Perhaps even the celebrant might be contagious, and we are touching the Eucharist at distribution, and then passing on the virus to others. We do not know (yet) who is contagious or who already has had it and now immune, or who is vulnerable to the severe symptoms. As a result, the best course of action seems to be the stay at home orders for the general population to give time for our hospitals to prepare. Hopefully, by the end of April, there will be antibody tests that will allow an easing of the restrictions except for perhaps those most vulnerable.
So we are required, at this time, to maintain this stay at home order. We may look back and say that what we did was difficult. At this point, without these restrictions, from what we understand, we are putting vulnerable lives at risk. We may never know how many lives we have saved by doing nothing… by staying home… by maintaining social distances. May we never find out that we were the cause of unnecessary exposure and perhaps even death by not taking the doctors and epidemiologists at their word.
As Catholics, we are required to attend Mass (yes, that is the requirement, not reception of the Blessed Sacrament). But there are conditions in which that obligation is lifted, mainly when we are putting ourselves or others at risk either because of difficult travel conditions or illness. While those that are contagious may not be ill, they could pass this virus on to the more vulnerable, therefore, Bishop LeVoir and many other bishops have dispensed from the obligation to attend Mass.
At the same time, we live in a wonderful time — we have resources that our ancestors would never have imagined. How many priests and bishops have their Masses live-streamed or recorded for playback! Certainly, it is not the same. As one who is in a parish with the capability to live-stream, it is difficult for me as a priest-celebrant to offer Mass with only the minimal people needed to live-stream it. But it is better than nothing. Here, Mass is still being offered in the place best.
Reception of the Eucharist is important. This Holy Thursday evening, we will mark the giving of the Eucharist as the memorial of Christ’s death and resurrection. As we receive His Body and Blood, we receive communion with Him. But this communion is not automatic, nor is it the only means of communion. We have to remember that Judas was at the Last Supper. He received from Christ Himself the first Eucharist. Yet he did not have communion. St. Peter, and nine other apostles for that matter, also received, but St. Peter would deny even knowing Jesus within hours and the others would run and hide. Only St. John remained at the foot of the cross. Only he experienced an immediate communion with the Lord. Certainly, after the Resurrection, when the sign of the Eucharist was fulfilled, though not fully understood, did the apostles experience a deeper communion, one that lead to their bold preaching and eventual martyrdom. Ironically, only St. John was spared death from martyrdom, though they tried. But he had a spiritual martyrdom — he desired union with the Lord in all things, even the Lord’s death.
And that concept of martyrdom by desire might help us understand the other point — the Eucharist is not the only means to communion. St. John experienced a spiritual martyrdom — he deeply desired to give witness to the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ through his own death — but that was not God’s will. The Church teaches of the importance of Baptism. Baptism is the means in which we enter the Sacramental life of the Church. But it is possible to be saved, in ways known to God alone, without receiving this sacrament. Someone who is not yet baptized but dies in witness to Jesus Christ, therefore a martyr, is said to have experienced a baptism by blood. Their faith in Christ lead them to die for Him, and the Lord will save them. But there is another means: Someone who is preparing for Baptism, say in an RCIA program, who dies before the sacrament, might be saved in what the Church calls baptism by desire. Their desire for the sacrament is so great that, despite circumstances beyond their control, receive the graces that that sacrament imparts. See, God binds Himself to the Sacraments, but is not bound by them. He guarantees that they impart grace on those capable of receiving that grace, but that is not the only way He can give it.
The Lord has bound Himself to the Eucharist. He imparts the grace of communion with Himself (and all the saints, for that matter) in the reception of the Eucharist. But He can, and does give that grace through other means too. Again, that grace is not automatic — we must desire Him, union with Him, communion with Him and all in union with Him. We cannot continue to see the Eucharist as a commodity — a ‘something' I need. Rather, we need to see the Eucharist as He is - Christ who humbles Himself for us and our salvation. A Gift from Christ of Himself that we may have the grace of union with Him. Instead of seeing it as the only means of communion, we perhaps can see it as the primary means, the privileged means of communion. Perhaps, during this Great Fast, now extended into May, we can continue to grow in our desire the Eucharist for who He is — our Lord and Savior, and remember that while the majority of Catholics cannot receive Him Sacramentally, we can receive Him spiritually by deeply desiring Him. He will not allow His people to starve in their desire for communion. He will nourish them in ways mysterious.
I know that this is a difficult time. I know people are afraid, frustrated, and angry. But I also know that it does not have to be so. We can choose to let Christ reign in our hearts. The stone of His tomb could not stop His resurrection, nor can this virus. In fact, there is only one thing that can stop Jesus Christ from having power in our lives — us. Only when we desire He have no authority over us, that we have no communion with Him, is He thwarted from working in our lives and having communion with Him. Yes, - I desire Him in the Eucharist. But more importantly, I NEED Him.
When we are returned to the practice of public Mass (and we will), we may have a renewed joy to not only be in the presence of Christ and the congregation, but to be able to receive Him sacramentally, the most full sign that we have prepared our hearts by our communion by desire.
My Jesus,
I believe that You are present in the Most Holy Sacrament.
I love You above all things,
and I desire to receive You into my soul.
Since I cannot at this moment receive You sacramentally,
come at least spiritually into my heart.
I embrace You as if You were already there
and unite myself wholly to You.
Never permit me to be separated from You.
Amen.
This puts a spin on life as normal for me as a priest, of course. We are not allowed to have public Masses, and especially as we are about to start the Sacred Triduum and Easter, this is hard. Harder still is the fasting from the Eucharist that the Faithful will need to extend.
I hear of the frustration. I hear, too, of the grasping at straws, the desire for parking lot Masses (which present a number of challenges to the sanctity of the Mass) or the desire for multiplication of Masses beyond the priests’ ability to meet and yet keep everyone safe and compliant. I hear of the request that we distribute the Eucharist in a hygienic way through using disposable items that could still pass on this virus or collect fragments of the Blessed Sacrament (and would need respectful treatment).
We have to remember that this novel corona virus is unique. While many who are exposed to it may have little to mild symptoms, some will have severe symptoms. While underlying health concerns are an aggravating matter, this is not always the case. It seems that this virus is a little fickle. On top of that, as we have heard, someone might be contagious before, if ever, being symptomatic. This means that they might pass on this virus without ever getting sick or even knowing they are contagious. Perhaps even the celebrant might be contagious, and we are touching the Eucharist at distribution, and then passing on the virus to others. We do not know (yet) who is contagious or who already has had it and now immune, or who is vulnerable to the severe symptoms. As a result, the best course of action seems to be the stay at home orders for the general population to give time for our hospitals to prepare. Hopefully, by the end of April, there will be antibody tests that will allow an easing of the restrictions except for perhaps those most vulnerable.
So we are required, at this time, to maintain this stay at home order. We may look back and say that what we did was difficult. At this point, without these restrictions, from what we understand, we are putting vulnerable lives at risk. We may never know how many lives we have saved by doing nothing… by staying home… by maintaining social distances. May we never find out that we were the cause of unnecessary exposure and perhaps even death by not taking the doctors and epidemiologists at their word.
As Catholics, we are required to attend Mass (yes, that is the requirement, not reception of the Blessed Sacrament). But there are conditions in which that obligation is lifted, mainly when we are putting ourselves or others at risk either because of difficult travel conditions or illness. While those that are contagious may not be ill, they could pass this virus on to the more vulnerable, therefore, Bishop LeVoir and many other bishops have dispensed from the obligation to attend Mass.
At the same time, we live in a wonderful time — we have resources that our ancestors would never have imagined. How many priests and bishops have their Masses live-streamed or recorded for playback! Certainly, it is not the same. As one who is in a parish with the capability to live-stream, it is difficult for me as a priest-celebrant to offer Mass with only the minimal people needed to live-stream it. But it is better than nothing. Here, Mass is still being offered in the place best.
Reception of the Eucharist is important. This Holy Thursday evening, we will mark the giving of the Eucharist as the memorial of Christ’s death and resurrection. As we receive His Body and Blood, we receive communion with Him. But this communion is not automatic, nor is it the only means of communion. We have to remember that Judas was at the Last Supper. He received from Christ Himself the first Eucharist. Yet he did not have communion. St. Peter, and nine other apostles for that matter, also received, but St. Peter would deny even knowing Jesus within hours and the others would run and hide. Only St. John remained at the foot of the cross. Only he experienced an immediate communion with the Lord. Certainly, after the Resurrection, when the sign of the Eucharist was fulfilled, though not fully understood, did the apostles experience a deeper communion, one that lead to their bold preaching and eventual martyrdom. Ironically, only St. John was spared death from martyrdom, though they tried. But he had a spiritual martyrdom — he desired union with the Lord in all things, even the Lord’s death.
And that concept of martyrdom by desire might help us understand the other point — the Eucharist is not the only means to communion. St. John experienced a spiritual martyrdom — he deeply desired to give witness to the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ through his own death — but that was not God’s will. The Church teaches of the importance of Baptism. Baptism is the means in which we enter the Sacramental life of the Church. But it is possible to be saved, in ways known to God alone, without receiving this sacrament. Someone who is not yet baptized but dies in witness to Jesus Christ, therefore a martyr, is said to have experienced a baptism by blood. Their faith in Christ lead them to die for Him, and the Lord will save them. But there is another means: Someone who is preparing for Baptism, say in an RCIA program, who dies before the sacrament, might be saved in what the Church calls baptism by desire. Their desire for the sacrament is so great that, despite circumstances beyond their control, receive the graces that that sacrament imparts. See, God binds Himself to the Sacraments, but is not bound by them. He guarantees that they impart grace on those capable of receiving that grace, but that is not the only way He can give it.
The Lord has bound Himself to the Eucharist. He imparts the grace of communion with Himself (and all the saints, for that matter) in the reception of the Eucharist. But He can, and does give that grace through other means too. Again, that grace is not automatic — we must desire Him, union with Him, communion with Him and all in union with Him. We cannot continue to see the Eucharist as a commodity — a ‘something' I need. Rather, we need to see the Eucharist as He is - Christ who humbles Himself for us and our salvation. A Gift from Christ of Himself that we may have the grace of union with Him. Instead of seeing it as the only means of communion, we perhaps can see it as the primary means, the privileged means of communion. Perhaps, during this Great Fast, now extended into May, we can continue to grow in our desire the Eucharist for who He is — our Lord and Savior, and remember that while the majority of Catholics cannot receive Him Sacramentally, we can receive Him spiritually by deeply desiring Him. He will not allow His people to starve in their desire for communion. He will nourish them in ways mysterious.
I know that this is a difficult time. I know people are afraid, frustrated, and angry. But I also know that it does not have to be so. We can choose to let Christ reign in our hearts. The stone of His tomb could not stop His resurrection, nor can this virus. In fact, there is only one thing that can stop Jesus Christ from having power in our lives — us. Only when we desire He have no authority over us, that we have no communion with Him, is He thwarted from working in our lives and having communion with Him. Yes, - I desire Him in the Eucharist. But more importantly, I NEED Him.
When we are returned to the practice of public Mass (and we will), we may have a renewed joy to not only be in the presence of Christ and the congregation, but to be able to receive Him sacramentally, the most full sign that we have prepared our hearts by our communion by desire.
My Jesus,
I believe that You are present in the Most Holy Sacrament.
I love You above all things,
and I desire to receive You into my soul.
Since I cannot at this moment receive You sacramentally,
come at least spiritually into my heart.
I embrace You as if You were already there
and unite myself wholly to You.
Never permit me to be separated from You.
Amen.
Wednesday, April 8, 2020
Spy Wednesday 2020 - Who Is He?
Judas betrayed Jesus for 30 pieces of silver, not knowing who Jesus truly was. How do we fail to recognized Jesus? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/3e3NxGS Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Holy Tuesday 2020 - Night
Judas receives a morsel from our Lord, and Satan enters, and St. John records it was night- why? Because Judas didn’t understand what he received. https://ift.tt/3e2r5Or Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, April 5, 2020
Passion Sunday 2020 (10 am) - Relation
St. Peter and Judas display two different relationships with the Lord, and St. will give a third type. The type of relationship we have with the Lord will factor into how we accept Him. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/3bYxcl3 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Passion Sunday 2020 - Grasp
We grasp on to false things, but Jesus did not. During this Holy Week, can we grasp on to Jesus? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/3bYxcl3 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Wednesday, April 1, 2020
5th Wednesday Lent 2020 - Free
The three men are free in the furnace, and the pharisees were slaves. Where is our freedom? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/344XD5B Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Tuesday, March 31, 2020
5th Tuesday Lent 2020 - Lifted
Christ is lifted on the Cross, and His shame becomes our glory. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/39uP8C3 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, March 29, 2020
5th Sunday Lent 2020 - Stench
The sister of Lazarus share their empty with the Lord, who cries despite knowing that He is going to raise Lazarus. Do we have the courage to admit our own emotions to the Lord at the time? Do we share with Him that this stinks? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/3bzKNiw Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Wednesday, March 25, 2020
Annunciation 2020 - Incarnation
The Blessed Mother consents to cooperate with God's plan, and Jesus Christ became incarnate in her. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/3dmNqWB Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Tuesday, March 24, 2020
4th Tuesday Lent 2020 - Solutions
A lame man is convinced his only chance to be healed is to get in the water, but Jesus offers a better solution. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2woxFOl Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, March 22, 2020
4th Sunday Lent 2020 - Great Fast
Jesus Christ heals a man with a natural evil - he's blind - so that the glory of God might be revealed. He is still Lord, so what might He be doing by allowing this Great Fast from Mass Attendance? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2vIviW8 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Friday, March 20, 2020
3rd Friday Lent 2020 - Return
Why would the Lord allow this medical crisis? What it our response? Perhaps today's first reading has the answer - Return to the Lord with love. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2IYqHlC Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, March 15, 2020
3rd SL - A 2020 - Living Water
Jesus encounters a Samaritan women at a well, and draws faith from her, and she begins to glow with living water. In these challenging times, do we have that living water? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/38KcTWk Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, March 8, 2020
2nd SL - A ‘20 - Consolation
The Apostles Peter, James and John see Christ in His glory, and it prepared them for the Cross. Our consolations help us in our difficult times, too. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/3aCC0eW Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, March 1, 2020
1st Sunday Lent - A ‘20 - Concupiscences
Eve and Adam’s sin is transmitted to us not as sin but concupiscences. These affect us, and Satan uses these three-fold concupiscences against us, and even attempted to with Jesus. He provides the model. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/387RsON Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Wednesday, February 26, 2020
Ash Wednesday ‘20 - Battle.mp3
As we begin Lent, we are called into battle, and a Jesus gives the weapons. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2wIN3EM Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, February 23, 2020
7th SOTC ‘20 - Perfect
Jesus exhorts is to be perfect as our Heavenly Father is perfect. Are we seeking our purpose and maturity in a Christ? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2VdHLvf Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, February 16, 2020
6th SOTA ‘20 - Law
Jesus comes to not set the Law aside, but to fulfill it, and in doing so, raises the bar and gives us grace to live it. Both are acts of His love. What is our attitude toward His Law? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/31YeRR1 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, February 9, 2020
5th SOTA ‘20 - Salt And Light
Jesus teaches that we are to be salt and light. Are we who we are called to be??? https://ift.tt/2S7LyZ1 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, February 2, 2020
Presentation Of Our Lord ‘20 - Expectations
Anna and Simeon waited for the Lord’s promises to be fulfilled and recognized their fulfillment in the Christ Child. Are we expecting the Lord to keep His promises to us? https://ift.tt/2tu5fk4 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, January 26, 2020
3rd SOTA - Formation
Jesus Christ begins His ministry with a three-fold call to formation: reform, conform, and transform in Him. As we celebrate Catholic School Week, how are we seeking ongoing formation, and helping others? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/30TLH57 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Wednesday, January 22, 2020
2nd Thursday OT - David And Abortion
David faces Goliath, not with weapons or armor, but with courage in the Lord. Can we face our own Goliaths with the same confidence? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2sQ0QIe Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, January 12, 2020
Baptism Of The Lord ‘20 - Baptism
Jesus transforms the penitential rite of John the Baptism into a sacrament that begins the life of grace in us. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2TalKfS Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, January 5, 2020
Epiphany ‘20 - Gifts
The wise men bright practical and symbolic gifts to the newborn Chrst child. What do we bring? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2tu5fk4 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Wednesday, January 1, 2020
Mary, Mother Of God ‘20 - Theotokos
The Blessed Virgin Mary is the Mother of God, thr Theotokos. Let’s ponder with her the mystery of Christ’s birth. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2Qhe3md Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, December 29, 2019
Holy Family ‘19 - Model
The Holy Family models true family for us, as we continue to celebrate sour Lord’s Nativity. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/39iHfAK Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Wednesday, December 25, 2019
Tuesday, December 24, 2019
Christmas Eve ‘19 - Room
Merry Christmas! As we celebrate, we remember the One for which there was no room made room in God for us.
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Sunday, December 22, 2019
4th Sunday Advent A ‘19 - Home
St. Joseph responds in action to his dream, and takes the Blessed Virgin Mother into his home. Are we able? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2EERelX Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Tuesday, December 17, 2019
THINK
After some considerable prayer, I am posting the following.
Some are curious as to 'real reason' I left St. Peter 8 months ago. I already shared the reason honestly, but apparently there are further 'rumors'. More importantly, being notified of the death of Bishop Sirba of Duluth (I wonder how much of his heart was congenital versus caused by the stress of being a good bishop in the midst of such hard times). Then I read of Bishop Conley of Lincoln being open about his struggles and stepping away from ministry for time to heal. These reminded me that we all, even priests and bishops, need to be 'selfish' at times and ask for both prayers and help.
Especially as ministers of Christ, the Lord wants us to be healed and healthy so that we can lead others to Him without getting in the way. We become opaque and do not let the Lord shine through us as a transparent means if our health, whether physical, emotional, psychological or spiritual, is not being attended. We are going to be poor ministers, the less healthy we are, the more opaque we become. If we take care of these needs, we will be humble ministers who are able to be responsive to the Lord's will and lead others. That's something I have a more profound understanding of because of the last years.
I needed to step away. There were a number of stressors present during my nearly 6 year assignment in St. Peter. Due to a number of factors, I was not taking much time off and took no vacations. The parish faced high budget deficit which was beginning to grow out of control. The church building mortgage had little plan for payment. There were a number of staff concerns. Then there were a slew of baseless rumors. To be honest, it was these continued baseless and ultimately outlandish rumors and innuendoes that threw me over the top. I was to the point of defensiveness. I was not responding well to additional stressors, and they kept coming.
When Bishop LeVoir invited me to go for an extended mental health break starting after Easter, I accepted the opportunity immediately. An evaluation that was part of this time determined that I was incredibly stressed and almost to burnout. My otherwise good coping mechanisms (prayer, good diet, and daily exercise) had not been sufficient. Because I had not been taking care of my needs as fully as I should have, I needed to take more time off (not only by extending my stay then, but also continue to take time off as I returned). It also became clear that I was not the one to bring resolution to all the challenges that the parish faced. Suffice it to say that it is easier to establish new patterns in a new location and to bring in someone new with fresh eyes for the Parish.
Truthfully, there is nothing more to share.
In the last weeks, I have been approached by several (people who are not from St. Peter but knew me from other assignments) who are concerned about some continuing rumors they have heard. I am trying not to be defensive or to sin by trying to protect my reputation - That's not mine to protect or defend anymore. There is no truth to the rumors, at least the ones that have made it to me. I am grateful that people have the courage to address them to the source before spreading them!!! We need more of this.
We need to realize that not every rumor is true, and the few elements of rumors that are true are often much more nuanced that people think or want to believe. There are people that love to start or spread rumors, either because they know the 'truth' or because they despise the other person (though they may not say this as bluntly). Having a tantalizing bit of gossip makes them feel important, but sharing it shows how really insignificant they make themselves to be.
We will be held accountable for our words by the Lord. Gossip is a sinful two-pronged fork, depending on whether what is shared is true or false. Sharing the truth about someone's sins or illegal activities with someone who has no need to know is detraction (and we are obligated to share proof with legitimate authorities). Sharing mistruths, even while think they are true, of someones' short fallings is calumny. Both are sins. People have a right to their good reputation, unless by a consistent pattern have hurt it - so we should not be quick to share anything that is hurtful. If there is doubt whether the other person has the right to know, DO NOT share it!
I like the acronym THINK for dealing with gossip - Is is True? Helpful (versus hurtful)? Inspiring? Necessary? Kind? If not, keep it to yourself or better yet, forget it.
Imagine what we could be like if we, instead of gossiping about another's failing, prayed for each other? What if we truly showed concern and kindness for each other instead of tearing them down or sharing lies to get our way? What if, instead of using 'evidence' of failures or crimes, we kept quiet with all others who have no need to know, at least at the time? What if we emphasized the positives in each other instead? What if we sought to speak only the helpful and inspiring things that are needed? What if we truly THINK before spreading gossip?
Some are curious as to 'real reason' I left St. Peter 8 months ago. I already shared the reason honestly, but apparently there are further 'rumors'. More importantly, being notified of the death of Bishop Sirba of Duluth (I wonder how much of his heart was congenital versus caused by the stress of being a good bishop in the midst of such hard times). Then I read of Bishop Conley of Lincoln being open about his struggles and stepping away from ministry for time to heal. These reminded me that we all, even priests and bishops, need to be 'selfish' at times and ask for both prayers and help.
Especially as ministers of Christ, the Lord wants us to be healed and healthy so that we can lead others to Him without getting in the way. We become opaque and do not let the Lord shine through us as a transparent means if our health, whether physical, emotional, psychological or spiritual, is not being attended. We are going to be poor ministers, the less healthy we are, the more opaque we become. If we take care of these needs, we will be humble ministers who are able to be responsive to the Lord's will and lead others. That's something I have a more profound understanding of because of the last years.
I needed to step away. There were a number of stressors present during my nearly 6 year assignment in St. Peter. Due to a number of factors, I was not taking much time off and took no vacations. The parish faced high budget deficit which was beginning to grow out of control. The church building mortgage had little plan for payment. There were a number of staff concerns. Then there were a slew of baseless rumors. To be honest, it was these continued baseless and ultimately outlandish rumors and innuendoes that threw me over the top. I was to the point of defensiveness. I was not responding well to additional stressors, and they kept coming.
When Bishop LeVoir invited me to go for an extended mental health break starting after Easter, I accepted the opportunity immediately. An evaluation that was part of this time determined that I was incredibly stressed and almost to burnout. My otherwise good coping mechanisms (prayer, good diet, and daily exercise) had not been sufficient. Because I had not been taking care of my needs as fully as I should have, I needed to take more time off (not only by extending my stay then, but also continue to take time off as I returned). It also became clear that I was not the one to bring resolution to all the challenges that the parish faced. Suffice it to say that it is easier to establish new patterns in a new location and to bring in someone new with fresh eyes for the Parish.
Truthfully, there is nothing more to share.
In the last weeks, I have been approached by several (people who are not from St. Peter but knew me from other assignments) who are concerned about some continuing rumors they have heard. I am trying not to be defensive or to sin by trying to protect my reputation - That's not mine to protect or defend anymore. There is no truth to the rumors, at least the ones that have made it to me. I am grateful that people have the courage to address them to the source before spreading them!!! We need more of this.
We need to realize that not every rumor is true, and the few elements of rumors that are true are often much more nuanced that people think or want to believe. There are people that love to start or spread rumors, either because they know the 'truth' or because they despise the other person (though they may not say this as bluntly). Having a tantalizing bit of gossip makes them feel important, but sharing it shows how really insignificant they make themselves to be.
We will be held accountable for our words by the Lord. Gossip is a sinful two-pronged fork, depending on whether what is shared is true or false. Sharing the truth about someone's sins or illegal activities with someone who has no need to know is detraction (and we are obligated to share proof with legitimate authorities). Sharing mistruths, even while think they are true, of someones' short fallings is calumny. Both are sins. People have a right to their good reputation, unless by a consistent pattern have hurt it - so we should not be quick to share anything that is hurtful. If there is doubt whether the other person has the right to know, DO NOT share it!
I like the acronym THINK for dealing with gossip - Is is True? Helpful (versus hurtful)? Inspiring? Necessary? Kind? If not, keep it to yourself or better yet, forget it.
Imagine what we could be like if we, instead of gossiping about another's failing, prayed for each other? What if we truly showed concern and kindness for each other instead of tearing them down or sharing lies to get our way? What if, instead of using 'evidence' of failures or crimes, we kept quiet with all others who have no need to know, at least at the time? What if we emphasized the positives in each other instead? What if we sought to speak only the helpful and inspiring things that are needed? What if we truly THINK before spreading gossip?
Sunday, December 15, 2019
3rd Sunday Advent A '19 - Proof
John the Baptist's disciples are sent to see if Jesus is the long awaited Savior, and Jesus invites them to look and see the proof. What is the proof of Jesus's continued presence with us? Readings are found at https://ift.tt/34lB6A0 Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Thursday, December 12, 2019
Our Lady of Guadelupe '19
A little information on the image of Our Lady of Guadelupe on the tilma of St. Juan Diego. For more information, see https://ift.tt/2E9wkLd and https://ift.tt/2ta7vg1 Readings are found at https://ift.tt/36pgmZE Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, December 8, 2019
2nd Sunday Advent ‘19 - Repent
We are called to produce fruits of repentance. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2LAmeat Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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Sunday, December 1, 2019
1st Sunday Of Advent A ‘19 - PRAY
As we begin Advent let’s PRAY to prepare well. Readings are found at https://ift.tt/2rIJITA Give feedback at https://goo.gl/forms/iG1Tvk4cHTGhdOWz2
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